ok so I know this is an answer to my own question but it is also an FYI for anyone else who uses Pymol
This is a useful link for all the commands in Pymol
http://www.pymolwiki.org/index.php/Category:CommandsFor my own problem the answer was the command fuse (pk1),(pk2) where pk1 and pk2 are the atoms on each molecule between which you wish to form the bond.
The create bond command is only good within the same molecule